Understanding My Self-Abandonment Pattern – In-Person

This is the in-person ticket.

It starts with a question you’ve probably asked yourself more times than you can count: “Why do I keep doing this?”.

You say yes when you want to say no, overthinking everything. You seek approval from people whose opinions shouldn’t matter this much. You put everyone else first, feel responsible for everyone else’s happiness, and end up exhausted without really understanding why.

You notice that despite changing jobs, relationships, circumstances or goals, the same emotional experiences keep showing up. The same patterns. The same feeling of ending up right back where you started. You think to yourself: “I know better, but I still do it. Something keeps pulling me back.”

Here’s what happened. Years ago, you developed a coping strategy. It helped you feel loved, accepted, safe, important, or needed. The Over-Giver learned that love comes from giving. The Approval Seeker learned that acceptance comes from fitting in. The Controller learned that safety comes from certainty. The Rescue Seeker learned that value comes from helping others. 

And your strategies worked. Until they didn’t.

Over time, the strategy becomes your identity. And the behaviours from your dominant stopped being something you did and became who you believed you were. And what stacked up? Resentment. Exhaustion. Anxiety. Self-doubt. People pleasing. Difficulty making decisions. Feeling unseen. Feeling unfulfilled. The cost accumulated quietly, until one day something imploded.

Maybe it was a relationship breakdown. Maybe it was burnout. Maybe it was just a growing realisation that your life doesn’t feel like yours anymore. You suddenly realised: “I’ve built a life around everyone else, and I don’t know where I fit.”

This is where Understanding My Self-Abandonment Pattern: The Version of Me That Learned to Cope begins.

Because here’s the truth most personal development misses: you are not broken. You are not your pattern. Your pattern is simply the version of you that learned how to cope. The problem is not who you are. The problem is the strategy you’ve been using to find love, belonging, safety, and happiness.

This workshop removes judgement. Instead of asking “What’s wrong with you?” It asks “What was this pattern trying to do for you?” You discover that your behaviours are not character flaws. They are survival strategies. This helps you move from shame to understanding.

Think of it like this: you’ve been wearing an Invisible Suit. A version of yourself built to protect you, to help you belong, to keep you safe. But that suit was never meant to be permanent. It was meant to help you survive a moment, not define your entire life. The workshop helps you recognise: “I am not my pattern.” It provides language, understanding, and context for experiences you’ve often struggled to explain.

Once you can see the pattern clearly, you stop fighting yourself and begin understanding yourself.

Details:

Choose Your Experience

Option 1: In-Person Workshop

Understanding My Self-Abandonment Pattern

📍 Berwick, Melbourne, Victoria

📅 Saturday 10 October

🕙 10:00am – 2:00pm

☕ Includes tea break

🥪 Includes lunch

Investment

$169

Bring a Friend Special <= Click here to access.

Bring a friend and receive 50% off the second ticket.

2 Tickets = $254.50

(That’s $169 for your ticket + $85.50 for your friend’s ticket.)

 Here’s what the journey through this workshop looks like:

 Recognition: You discover your dominant Self-Abandonment Pattern. The feeling? Relief. “That’s me.”

 Understanding: You understand why the pattern developed. The feeling? Compassion. “It makes sense now.”

 Connection: You uncover the Happiness Myth underneath the pattern. The feeling? Awareness. “I’ve spent years trying to find happiness this way.”

 Cost: You name how the pattern affects your life. The feeling? Honesty. “This is costing me more than I realised.”

 Separation: You understand the pattern isn’t who you are. The feeling? Freedom. “Maybe I’m more than this.”

 Possibility: You see a pathway from Self-Abandonment to Self-Support. The feeling? Hope. “I can change this.”

What this workshop gives you is something most people are not lacking… information. You’re lacking permission. Permission to trust yourself. Permission to listen to yourself. Permission to honour yourself. Permission to include yourself in your own life.

When you implement this workshop, you gain self-awareness without self-judgement. Instead of feeling broken, you begin understanding why you work the way you do. Your day-to-day changes because you begin noticing the pattern in real time. You start catching yourself before automatically abandoning yourself. You become more conscious. More self-aware. More curious. Less reactive.

You find yourself asking “What do I need?” instead of “What does everyone else need?” You begin noticing where you seek approval, give too much, over-control or rescue others—for the first time. The main benefit? Understanding. “Now I understand why I do this.” That insight is transformational.

Because here’s what happens if you don’t engage with this work… the pattern continues. The same relationship dynamics. The same boundary issues. The same self-doubt. The same feeling that life is happening to you instead of being created by you. Eventually, you become disconnected from yourself altogether.

But when you do this work? You move from self-judgement to self-understanding. You stop asking “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking “What happened to me? What was I trying to protect? What was I trying to receive?” That shift changes everything.

Your ultimate goal isn’t confidence. It isn’t boundaries. It isn’t self-care. Those are outcomes. Your real goal is to come home to yourself. To stop abandoning yourself. To feel like you belong in your own life. Which aligns perfectly with being 100% You.

Instead of seeing your life as proof that you’re failing, you begin seeing it as evidence of the strategies you’ve been repeating. You realise: my pattern is not my identity. My coping strategy is not who I am. I can understand it. I can change my relationship with it. And I can return to me.

The deepest promise of this workshop is not that you leave with answers. It’s that you leave with a new question. Instead of “What’s wrong with me?” you leave asking: “Who would I be without this pattern?”

And that question naturally leads you into the next stage of your journey, because once you understand the version of yourself that learned to cope, you become ready to discover who you are underneath it.

If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns, if you’re exhausted from carrying a version of yourself that no longer fits, if you’re ready to understand why you keep abandoning yourself—this workshop is your starting point.

Click add to cart to register now and begin the journey from self-abandonment to self-support. It’s time to come home to yourself.